11 October 07 - 10:50Cheating Wives
These are the eyebrow-raising findings of a team of German researchers from the Hamburg-based GEWIS Institute for Social Research. Reuters reports that in a survey of 1,427 men and women between the ages of 25 and 35, fully 53 percent of women said they had been unfaithful to their partner, compared with 59 percent of men.
But surely they must feel guilty? Wrong. Susan Shapiro Barash, a gender studies professor at Marymount Manhattan College, interviewed 50 women who cheated on their husbands. She says 90 percent felt no guilt, a finding that even surprised her. "They felt very entitled and felt entitled because they had been so unhappy in the marriage. It's a fantasy, it's just much more liberating," she explained on ABC's "Good Morning America."
Barash wrote all about it in "A Passion for More: Wives Reveal the Affairs that Make or Break Their Marriages." She said that while 65 percent of the cheating wives said sex was better with their lover than their husband, fully 45 percent of the ...
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08 October 07 - 12:22Ladies, Are You Too Picky?
By Rachel Greenwald
Dear Rachel,
A big problem with being older is that you carry your score card with you on dates. I think at least, “Well, I know what I don’t want.” Over the years, I’ve developed this long list (and it’s growing longer!) of turn-offs and pet peeves, perhaps developed from ex-boyfriends, especially the last guy I dated. How do I get past these instant judgments I make on first dates about everything from table manners to grammar to annoying habits? I have been repeatedly told by my friends and family that the reason I’m not married is that I’m too picky. What’s a girl to do?
- Julie in Minneapolis
Dear Julie,
While you should have high standards for yourself at any age, there is definitely a big difference between being “too picky” and just plain “short-sighted.” You may already know what I’m going to say, because it’s probably what all your friends and family have been telling you: give men more time for you to discover who they are on ...
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06 October 07 - 10:16Male "Mid-Life Crisis" Explained
We've all heard about guys going through the dreaded "midlife crisis." Or "male menopause" as women like to call it. Usually this involves a guy who hits a certain age, and suddenly feels the urge to look and act more youthful. The cliché is the middle-aged guy who goes out and splurges on a new sports car.
Evolutionary psychologists believe the "midlife crisis" is real, but it happens for reasons you wouldn't expect. It’s not because the man has reached middle age; it’s because his wife has. The midlife crisis is triggered because his wife is about to enter (or has entered) menopause, meaning she can no longer reproduce.
This in turn makes the man feel a renewed need to attract younger women, in order to have a way to continue producing offspring.
On a conscious level, the middle-aged guy might not have any interest in having more kids. ...
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05 October 07 - 00:34Think About This For A Moment....
"The way we choose to see
the world creates the world we see."
Barry Neil Kaufman
03 October 07 - 12:22Why Do Men Look?
I received an email from a lady with a question I wish more women would ask. If you know the real answer you might be better at accepting this thing we men do that seems to bother so many women:
"why if men love you as they say, do they scope out every attractive woman they see. My hub and I are very close but it bothers me that he has such a wandering eye, everywhere we go. It makes me feel that he is not satisfied with me. he says I have a problem. Even picks out tv shows with a lot of female content. if he is so in love as he says, why must he do this? AND what is he thinking when he does this?"
My reply:
"AND what is he thinking when he does this"
He's not thinking, he's reacting. As I explain in my book, a man's evolutionary imperative is to mate with as many qualifying females as possible, to ensure the survival of as many offspring as possible. As you've probably ...
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